Tell me if I am out of line or acting ridiculous or what....
Last week we got a phone call from a friend that said her aunt died. She had brain cancer. According to her, this aunt and I were doing pretty much the same things with chemo and so on.
When I called her to give my sympathies, I asked what happened, maybe my ignorance, but she proceeded to tell me every little detail up to how she turned dark before dying. Hospice said...........and it was....not the Word says.
I have already talked to one of you about this and you said that I must not be with her. I can't afford for my spirit to get upset over this, but now it seems to keep happening. Should I have Barry talk to her???
Am I missing something here or would you expect these things to "weigh" on me.
Yesterday morning she called to tell Barry that another lady had passed from cancer that we knew pretty well.
Don't get me wrong, I feel really bad that these ladies passed. I would so much rather they were healed and I believed for healing for them.
I guess that I am just asking for some sensitivity to this whole mess here. I am standing strong, but I am still human.
Can anyone weigh in here on what you think.
Still make sure that you read my next post. God is doing some awesome things in MY life! Praise His Holy Name!
Thursday, October 4, 2007
Ok, Something's Been Bugging Me!
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well...the WORD of God brings LIFE to you! So right now...forgive her for telling you ...and love her up...and hang the phone to Barry. Your ears MUST hear life and not death. GOD is a light unto your path ARLENE. You cant afford to "listen to the whispers of death" God is a God of life and hahahaha HE IS YOUR "LIFE" line...no more calls from her right now! But forgive her!
Oh Arlene~ She doesn't have much
sense! Why on Earth would she do this?
The Bible says "Don't be unequally yoked" I have learned for myself, that means- those who would murmur
and complain and just bring us down
spiritually!
Screen your calls~ You Do Not need
anything negative!
I will pray for her, hope I don't
come across unkindly, but you don't
need anything to be bugging you!!!
Arlene, I agree entirely with 'If' and Trish. Please do not let them dampen your spirit.
I can read two items into this, and probably they are way off:
First would be a well meaning but clumsy attempt to draw you out to see if you are saved and ready for God when Jesus calls you.
Second may be a seeking for herself. If she doubts her faith, she may be looking for some reassurance by your testimony. Or your further witness if she is not saved.
At any rate, for this second view, Bear can handle this. You probably aren't up to that right now.
These may be way off. I'm sorry, maybe, if these ideas will bother you. But remember, you are in the loving arms of a loving God through Jesus love for you.
You will prevail.
Your testimony to me reminds me of your assurance of God being with you, just as he was with Moses:
Deuteronomy 31:6,8
6 Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you."
8 The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged."
And remember, your friends love you and are praying for you, earnestly.
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Dearest Arlene, remember Job and his 'comforters'?
We all have someone like this in our lives and I've learned we don't have to talk to them if we're not up to it. Simply back off for a while and if she calls, let your wonderful hubby answer the phone if you think you need to answer it at all. You can send a card of consolation if you wish to, but limit one-on-one conversations for a time. I do this regularly and don't feel badly about it. Especially when I'm not feeling well.
Remember too who holds you in the palm of His hand! I have learned that we never, ever leave this earth until our Father says it's time to come Home. Like when we were kids, playing outside in the summer time until dark and then we'd hear our Mom or our Dad calling us ... "it's time to come in".
Rest in the fact He is in charge. And then rest in the fact He's given you Barry to be your covering. And then my friend, rest in caller ID and don't pick up the phone!
Good advice from all of you. Thank you ALL so much!
my advice is short...
quite let satan poke you... that little booger is only trying to shake you up... don't let him. You stand on God's word, you are healed... stripes!
Sometimes our best intentions go wrong. Unfortunately she took you literally when you asked her "what happened" and she used poor judgement when giving you the details. You have every right to express that although you have the deepest sympathy for her loss, and you will pray for the family....it's your desire - and NEED - that only words of faith and healing are spoken to you. You can choose to let her leave a message on your phone instead of speaking to her, or you can tell her very kindly that although she may not fully realize it, right now its imperative that you take part in ONLY positive, faith building conversations. If she doesn't understand - she'll make that decision about speaking to you and you won't have to do anything.
Sometimes friends just need a little loving direction-it sounds to me like that may be all it takes. After all, she does care enough to call you and is concerned for you, even if she didn't use wisdom. Like I said, if she chooses not to take instruction, she will be the one to decide to hold off on the phone calls.
You need to just forget what happened and what was said and put it out of your mind. We are standing on the word you are healed!!!! If anyone has anything else to say them your ears should shut! Don't talk to negative people don't even watch anything about illness! Only things that are speaking life should be allowed in. When my daughter was really sick I knew that she was going to be healed I wouldn't even tell people what the doctors said because I didn't want the words to even cross my lips. When asked how she was doing I would say she is healed thanks for asking!!!! Enough said have a blessed healed day!
Love YA!
i think your misinformed friend needs to be gently redirected. for your good? yes. and for her own. i have learned that God slaps me on the wrist for my mouth as a warning before i do worse damage. this is a time for her to get that nudge. let barry speak to her, he's got such a sweet spirit it won't be hurtful. this is her lesson to learn.
or give me her number. that'll teach her!
I don't think that those calls were wise at all Arlene!
I mean it would be different if they were asking you to pray for those people with cancer just as you asked us to pray for Ronnie and we did but what is the sense of those guys phoning to tell you those people had died?
It is just so cruel, That's my opinion anyways!...Love Terry
Arlene, like you have said before, the Lord still has lots of work for you and Barry to be doing for Him..
Redirection in love is good, but just once is enough. You can't keep talking to her, and using your energy to re-direct. (I think you mean well, but why are you calling me with these things?...My God says I am healed, and I will stand on that forever! So, I have to ask you to only speak things of life.) Now your done....If the next time you talk to her after you have re-directed her...pass the phone to Verrily to dismiss her gently, and don't answer the phone....It is never too late for GOD...Man couldn't do it...now God gets all 100% of the glory.
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and thanks
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You need to be communicating with positive people Arlene.No upsetting bab news for you. Its good to be sympathetic but don 't let that darken your cornor.Love you.
Thank you all for your comments. I definitely needed to hear from you guys. Thank you so much. I am doing better.
Dear Arlene,
you're on my list of prayer as well. And I hurt when you're hurt.
I send you my best from
Romans 8:38 -39.
38For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come,
39Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Be blessed, be in peace, embraced by the love of God.
From Felisol
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